Is He Good Boyfriend Material Or Will He Hurt You?

Do you seem to unknowingly attract “unavailable” men?
In this email I’m going to teach you why a man will act afraid of a real relationship…
And how lots of women both CHOOSE the wrong men… and bring out the “bad qualities” in the right men and ruin things for themselves.
**Quick Tip: Just because you’ve been happily dating a man for several weeks, months or even years… it doesn’t automatically mean he is thinking or feeling “commitment”, or seeking a deeper lasting expression of his LOVE.**
If you’re like most women, then by experience you already know this to be true. And it scares you.
You can spend time with a man, get close, become intimate and bond… and he can still NOT WANT to enter into a relationship with you.
So why are so many men “unavailable”?
The short answer is because men have a different RELATIONSHIP TIMELINE for wanting to get “serious” with a woman… and a different way of seeing how love and an exclusive committed relationship comes together.
But what can you do with this?

What Women Look For In A Man

I thought it would be interesting to give you a different point of view this time.
And I thought it might be helpful to take you “behind the scenes”, and show you what it’s like for a woman when she’s “looking” for a man.
OK, to start with, I have something important to tell you:
WOMEN ARE CRAZY.
I know, profound.
You can write me later and tell me how this new revelation has changed your life.
But please calm down, collect yourself, and let me explain.
Why do I say that women are “crazy”?
Well, BECAUSE THEY ARE, first of all. lol…
No, it’s because women do something that SEEMS crazy (especially if you’re a man).
Women like to SAY ONE THING, but when the time comes around to actually ACT, they do something TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
I could go into an essay on why this is, but for the purposes of this discussion, the most important reason has to do with EMOTIONS.

Are You A Fling To Him…Or Something More?

Did you know that most men decide if a woman is “girlfriend material” within a few seconds of eeting her?
And here’s what is even more fascinating and strange about how men think and feel…
If you don’t know how to create the right first impression with a man, then you just might get thrown into the “just a friend” category before you can even talk to or connect with him.
And guess what that means?
Everything that you do after a man gets that initial impression about you is run through the “she’s just a friend” filter… and this can make being in the “friend zone” almost inescapable.
ESPECIALLY if you’re looking to get involved with a man for MORE THAN JUST A FLING.
But, there IS something you can do about this.
If you want to learn the mistakes lots of women make in first and second impressions that land them in the “friend zone”…
And what you can do instead that will make him think “GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL” from the get-go, then keep reading…
WHY A MAN RECOGNIZES ONE WOMAN AS “RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL” AND ANOTHER AS JUST A “FLING”
Did you know that men have several specific terms and phrases that they use with each other to think of and describe women?
It’s a sort of “guy code” or short-hand slang that men everywhere use with each other and their friends.
One of my favorites that I’ve been hearing all my life from men is the term “Cool Girl.”
As in when a man says, “Yeah, I met this girl the other night and she was a really “cool girl”.
As simple as this sounds, the meaning that men give this term is important and applies to a set of very specific qualities.
Qualities that, although never actually discussed among men, are universally understood.
Quick quiz here for you:
1) You’ve got cool fashion sense.
2) Great taste in music.
3) You hang with the hippest friends at the best places.
4) And you’re often the life of the party.
So, that makes you a “Cool Girl”, right?
Not necessarily.
So, what in the world are men talking about?
And why are they so fickle?

One Good Dating Tip: Enlist A BFFF

By now you should know that planning parties, events and outings is the BEST way to meet women (didn’t know that?  Read “How To Get A Girlfriend” ).  For the *BEST* results you need to enlist a partner in “social” crime…
Your BFFF

Your BFFF=Best Female Friend…”Forever” (sorry, had to).
If you want to truly reach the highest of social heights, you need to enlist a hip, plugged-in woman to help you grow your social circle. It’s not “required”, but it does make a HUGE difference.
Ask yourself: If you received an invitation from “Joey” or from “Joey and Marie”, which would intrigue you more? If you knew a party was being thrown by both “Paul” AND “Vanessa”, wouldn’t it cause you to want to go MORE? Sure it would.
Why?

6 Secrets To Meet More Singles via Online Dating

By now you know that online dating is by far the most popular and easiest way to meet fabulous singles. And even if you work the swing shift, only date junk food addicts or are looking for someone who shares your adoration of Desperate Housewives and Sex Inspectors, it's easier than ever to find your perfect match via online personals. Not having as much luck with your online dating as you'd like, though? Lucky for you, upping your odds of finding well-suited single men and single women via an online dating service is as easy as microwaving a bag of popcorn - just follow these 6 simple tips:
1) Post a photo, even if you think you look like Quasimoto
The first thing you should know about online personals is profiles with photos get eight times the response. Why? Nobody, but nobody, wants to end up with whatever is lurking behind door number three. Here's an interesting little factoid from Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner, authors of Freakonomics (William Morrow, 2005): "A low-income, poorly-educated, unhappily employed, not-very-attractive slightly overweight and balding man who posts his photo stands a better chance at gleaning some emails than a man who says he makes $200,000 a year and is deadly handsome but doesn't post a photo." The lesson? Post a photo on the online dating service - even if it's a quickie that you intend to take down later and replace with something else. This applies to both single women and single men using adult personals to meet other singles. Don't wait until you lose twenty pounds. Don't wait until the Rogaine kicks in! Post your photo today - even if it's not perfect, it's sure a lot better than nothing when fishing for singles.

Great Kiss Ideas

Below is the list of great kiss tips and techniques to express your emotions towards someone special. There are hundreds of types of kisses to express different emotions or just for fun and enjoyment. Try a few of them with your sweet partner and feel the difference.
Tackle Kiss When you're across the room from your lover, make a quick dash and catch them by surprise with hugs and kisses! This is very fun and romantic.
Take My Breath Away Kiss While you and your partner are French kissing, wait until your partner inhales. When they inhale, exhale into their mouth. It will literally take your breath away. You can do this visa versa. It is a very entertaining kiss.
Take My Breath Away Kiss Closing off all space between each others mouths, take a deep breath, then share that breath of air back and forth as your lips meet.
Talking Kiss Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth.
Teaser Kiss Starting on the forehead, a sweet short kiss on lips, then move up the arms up to her hand, kiss her hand, then come back up her arm, to her face and then lightly kiss her lips till she wants a passionate kiss.
Temple Kiss Kiss your partner on the temple and then slowly kiss from down to the check bone. S/he won't be able to get enough!
The Ear Kiss Start by just kissing and then start kissing around his or her neck, then start kissing their ear and gently sucking on it. You can try gently licking or biting their ear as well. It will drive them crazy and lead to more.
Tickle Kiss Tickle the top of your partner's mouth with your tongue. It feels great and will give them a wild sensation.
Tickle Kiss #2 While hugging your partner, tickle them and make them laugh. While they're laughing, kiss them. Then tickle and kiss again. Women especially love this one!
Tiger Kiss Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.
Tongue Kiss While French kissing your partner, gently suck their tongue while it's in your mouth. This produces a wonderful, erotic feeling for both!
Tongue Sucking A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner's tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)
Tongue Tease While French kissing, try moving your tongue on his teeth, then stick it in and out of his mouth. Be sure to move slowly as it will really excite him.
Tongue to Tongue Kiss While sitting on chair beside each other, touch your partner's tongue with the tip of your tongue. It will give you both a wild pleasure.
Tracing Kiss When kissing your lover, gently trace there lips with your tongue.
Trickle Kiss Take a sip of a favorite drink and trickle it slowly into partner's mouth while kissing.
Underwater Deep End Kiss Dive to the bottom of the deep end of a pool. Find your partner under water and begin kissing. Continue as you rise to the top.

Wedding dress shopping tips

Wedding day is the most important day for bride and groom. But one of the bride's biggest dilemma is picking out that perfect wedding dress. So, don't just wait for that perfect wedding dress to fall in your hands, start planning.
Begin shopping early. There is no time too early to start looking. It could take up to 6 – 8 months for a special order and custom bridal dresses to arrive. Allow time for fitting and altering before the wedding. There's nothing wrong with beginning early, but don't make the mistake of buying yet. You should shop around and try as many as you want, but finally order when you think that you have found that perfect bridal dress. You don't want to order the dress already, and then keep regretting later on looking at some other pretty ones.
Where should you to shop. This decision will be based on your budget. You can shop at small boutiques, big brand stores or online. Just make sure that wherever you decide to shop, be very careful of the sales people from talking you into buying any wedding dress, the stores that don't let you browse freely or the fitting if shopping online. Make sure that you are satisfied with the customer service and the dress you finally choose.
Take some of these with you. Take a friend or family member with you who you can consult and ask for opinions. Take the photos of wedding dresses that you like from a magazine or online. Also a digital camera or notepad with you to keep the records of dresses that you liked and can refer to later on.
If you have already decided to wear a certain item like pair of shoes, necklace or a veil, you can take those with you to make sure that the dress goes with other items that you are going to wear on your wedding day.
If you don't mind wearing a used one, consider buying one to save a great deal of money.
Try many different styles. Women often change their minds on the styles and patterns after trying a few different ones.
Finally, get it all in the writing to avoid the hassles later on. Along with the cost and every other charge, include the alteration charges that the seamstress will provide.
Enjoy and have a good time. Do not get stressed or discouraged. This is the time when you are the center of attention and people will shower you with extra kindness because you are the beautiful bride. So, just enjoy and have fun.
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Tips for Dating, How To?

Here are some useful tips and advice for those who are either new or old players in dating. No one is a dating expert and we learn each and everyday about new ideas about how to date more and how to attract those people that we want and how to make sure the first meeting blooms into an enduring relationship.
There are no magical formulas, no fail proof methods but just some hard and fast rules developed from the daters experience and that works successfully in most of the cases. Different tacts work for different people and these all depends upon the situation like who we are, where we are and our living styles etc.
Here are some good steps of advice that are fairly universal and can help anyone who practice them:

Fit, Single Women and Men: Stop Dating Couch Potatoes!

For many single women and men, living an active, fit lifestyle isn?t just a choice, but a way of life that involves a commitment of time, energy, and passion. Naturally, finding a relationship partner that shares similar priorities and interests is critical for compatibility, and many singles struggle to meet like-minded partners that share their commitment to fitness. Even with the help of broad, online dating services or personal ads, finding a mate with this specific qualification can be difficult.
Fortunately, for single women and men no longer willing to settle for ?couch potato? partners, a new breed of thematic, more selective online dating services are proving popular. A far cry from the generic adult personals of yesteryear, these next generation services are helping health enthusiasts and others find compatible singles in a fun, private, secure environment. Websites such as www.fitness-singles.com are providing them with friendly, low-key venues to mingle, get to know each other, and decide how far to take the relationship.

Why Women Aren’t Attracted To Nice Guys

ATTENTION “NICE GUYS”:
If you are a “nice guy” who never seems to be able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive female friends who always seem to say, “He’s really wonderful, but I just like him as a FRIEND”, then this could possibly be the single most important thing you ever read in your entire life.
And I’m not kidding… not even a little.
If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I see men making with women (and the big mistake that I’ve made myself too many times to count), it’s being a WUSSY.
Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors:
1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with.
2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her.
I would venture to guess that most men either act like WUSSIES with women they’re attracted to ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they REALLY like.
I know, this sounds a little strange, right?
What the heck should being a Wuss have to do with attracting women?
The answer: EVERYTHING.
Let’s review a few of the most important concepts to remember when it comes to attracting women:
1) ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE. As humans, we don’t “consciously choose” who we FEEL attracted to. It just “happens” to us… BANG! And you can’t “convince” someone to FEEL this powerful emotion.
2) ATTRACTION DOESN’T MAKE SENSE. When you think about the concept of being emotionally attracted to another person, it only “makes sense” that you should feel attracted to good qualities like “niceness” and “honesty” and “loyalty”, right? Well guess what… ATTRACTION doesn’t play by those rules.

You’re Intimate But He Just Wants To Be Friends

Have you ever noticed that the more you try to get close to a man and improve your relationship… the more DISTANT and withdrawn he’ll become?
Well, recently I received an email from a woman who shared her story about this.
I think you’ll feel for her and relate to the struggle that she’s facing.
That’s why I’ve devoted today’s newsletter to teaching you:
-why men can grow more distant the more you try to get closer to them
-the mistakes most women make when trying to bring men closer
-what REALLY works in creating a lasting and committed relationship with a man, and what doesn’t
-how a man becomes truly committed to a woman on a physical AND emotional level
So here we go…

One Good Dating Tip: Her “Approach Me” Signals

Most women will not approach you. You “get” that, right?

But, they WILL give you signals, or “indicators” of interest. In this day and age it is somewhat taboo for a woman to overtly indicate her interest to a man. However, there are ‘ways’ she can signal you to approach her.
Some of these are obvious, and some are very subtle. But all should be known by a guy who is looking to meet more women.
One caveat: if a woman does NOT provide you with one of these, it doesn’t now mean you have an excuse NOT to approach her (I know all of the loopholes).
My list (Got your own?  Please add in the comments below):
Looks at you a bit longer than is “usual”Looks back to you more than once - the classic “double-take”Smiles at you (duh)Goes out of her way for you to notice her (walks past your table, when there are more direct ways to where she is going)Within her locale, shifts her body language to be more open to youIf adjacent, raises her voice so that you can hear herAccidentally “bumps” into youDrops something near you hoping you will pick it upPushes her hair out of the way, so that you can see more clearly her faceSubtly allows you to see more clearly what she is going; so, if she is reading, she will be sure you can see the book/magazine giving you an opening (subtle, but true)Sits or stands near you, but with her back directly to you. If you move, she moves tooHer feet and hips point towards you, but her shoulders and head don’t.Her lips swell, or become flushed. Her cheeks or neck might change color tooHer pupils dilate when she looks at youShe, ‘accidentally’, separates herself from her groupShe sees you, then adjusts her clothes
If she goes out of her way – in subtle and not so subtle ways – to get you to notice her, then guess what?
She wants you to notice her.
If you notice any of the above, she is probably interested. But, there is only one way to find out and that is to approach her.
Need help with that?  Read my How To Pick Up Women article.
Enjoy!  Oh, and remember, feel free to add more below…
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Types of Kisses - Part 3

Kiss or Kissing is a way to express your emotions about love, friendship or passion towards someone special. There are hundreds of types of kisses to express different emotions or just for fun and enjoyment. The following list is compiled and sent by a user to share with our readers. Try a few of them from the list below with your sweet someone.
Ice Cream Kiss Take your partner out for ice cream and order one cone. Take the first bite and keep it in your mouth. Lean into your partner for a French kiss with the ice cream. Trade off taking bites. It's fun and a little funny.
Ice Cube Kiss Place an ice cube in your partners belly button, telling them that if they move and it falls out, you will stop kissing them. When the ice cube melts, you can use the cold water all over to make for an awesome sensation.
Ice Kiss Take a piece of ice in your mouth and hold it on your tongue until it melts, then sneak up on your partner and quickly lick their cheek or neck. It provides a cold but great feeling for them and it's a lot of fun!

How To Use Humor To Attract Women

One of the things that I discuss a lot is the idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men while NOT feeling it for others (even though the men that women feel ATTRACTION for might not be good choices for them because they’re abusive, etc.)
If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach goes something like this:
* ATTRACTION isn’t something that is logically chosen.
* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to certain cues and behaviors.
One of the things I’ve isolated that seems to cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men is the idea that I call being “Cocky & Funny.”
This is simply using an arrogant style of humor when you’re dealing with attractive women that leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION for you.
At the seminars I teach, I realized that several of the guys were having trouble getting the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like ATTRACTION in response to something as seemingly unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially about her) and making her laugh.
I mean, how COULD this possibly work?
I thought I’d take this newsletter and talk a bit about why I think that something so illogical could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some specifics about how to do it.
FIRST THE “WHY”…

How To Know If He is Serious Or Not

Have you ever been in a happy relationship with a man, and even though things were going well you started to WORRY about where it’s all going?
This worrying usually starts around the time when you feel that you’re connecting and starting to have strong feelings for him.
You’ve naturally become exclusive with him and assume he’s exclusive with you, too.
You have a great time when you’re together.
He’s introduced you to his friends and maybe even some of his family.
He’s met your friends. You’ve spent some holidays together. Celebrated birthdays and special occasions. Went on weekend trips together.
It just keeps getting better and better.
It feels really good to be so “in sync” with a guy.
But it isn’t long before it dawns on you…
You have a very special connection and you want it to last. And because it’s so good, you start to think that maybe you’ve finally found your Mr. Right.
That’s why you’re anxious about something going wrong, or about him suddenly “changing his mind” about you.
Maybe that sort of thing happened to you before…or maybe you’ve been hearing too many “horror stories” from friends who have experienced this.
So even though things are going “great” and you’re really connecting, you’re also beginning to freak out just a little.
This is precisely the moment where a lot of women make a crucial mistake.
They start to let their FEAR and insecurity take over. Instead of being secure because the relationship is going well and the guy seems like a good guy, they start to be afraid that it won’t last, or that it isn’t “real.”
This leads to a desire to KNOW exactly what the man is thinking and feeling.

Guy Talk: What Is Your Dating Blind Spot?

Everyone has a blind spot.  And in the area of dating and women, many men have very prominent blind spots.  By definition, we might be unable to diagnose ourselves.  But, if we can generate an interesting discussion on blind spots we have noticed in OTHERS, we might be helped to take a different look at ourselves.

I know that when I was starting to learn how to get better with women and dating, a blind spot I had was in my mindset.  I suffered from a ‘frame of scarcity’.  When I was talking to a woman, I would get so locked-in on her that I would lose all perspective and begin to NEED her approval.  This is a huge no-no when meeting women.  No woman wants to feel needed within 5 minutes.  I could be surrounded by multitudes of women, and still feel a sense of panic if this particular girl was showing signs of losing interest.
My solution to this was to learn more gimmicks, try harder, change my body language etc.  My answer was cosmetic…which had little to no effect.

Online Dating Comes to the Rescue of Physically Fit Singles

Help! If you're among the select few that value physical fitness, but can't find like-minded matches, you're not alone. Many people relish living an active and fit lifestyle. For them, being physically fit is way of life that involves a commitment of time, energy, and passion, so naturally these singles want someone with the same degree of passion about fitness.
Now for the good news: your online dating service has arrived to answer the needs of all individuals that are serious about staying in good shape.
?I've checked out a few of the other online dating sites, and have met some people?but it's tough to find someone who is as into fitness as I am,? says Scott Thomas of St. Louis, who turned to Fitness Singles to find a mate. ?I wanted to find someone who is active and will remain so after we get serious. Every long term relationship I've been in, the girl became rather inactive after a while and it affected her mind, body and soul.?

Types of Kisses - Part 2

Kiss or Kissing is a way to express your emotions about love, friendship or passion towards someone special. There are hundreds of types of kisses to express different emotions or just for fun and enjoyment. The following list is compiled and sent by a user to share with our readers. Pickup a few of them from the list below and try with your sweet someone.
Ear Kiss While your kissing/or just sitting there with your partner lightly kiss your partners neck move up to his/her ear and lightly suck and lick his ear. DON'T stick your tongue in his ear as that's a big turn off. But keep it light and your partner wont keep their hands off of you.
Earlobe Kiss Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.
Eskimo Kiss With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.
Extra Texture Stand or kneel behind your partner. With them either laying down or sitting with head tilted back, kiss while rubbing the tops of your tongues together. The cat-like lick feeling is incredible.
Eye Kiss Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.

One Good Dating Tip: When To Say “Can I Buy You A Drink?”

If a woman smiles at you from across the room, how do you approach her?  She’s practically SCREAMING for you to come and talk to her.  But, what is NOW the best way to begin the conversation?
Before you even begin to move towards her, remember to keep it simple and never do more than you really need to do.
Use the E/S opener.
The Environmental/Situational opener (E/S) is where we approach a woman with a rather simple question which can possibly lead to a longer, more interesting conversation.  Some examples:
Nice bag, is that a new Gucci?Do you like this painting?Wow, that dance floor is packed!Boy this line is taking forever.Can I buy you a drink? (yes, you can say it…if she gives you a strong signal of interest…happy now?)
The structure:
Notice the environment and pull a relevant question or comment from it that you pose to her.  The ONE thing you know that you have in common with her currently is the CONTEXT of your surroundings.  So, start from there.  Simple and easy (as it should be).
If you are a physically attractive guy, this might be all you need to do at ANY point EVER socially.  Or, if she gives you a big smile, or other obvious signal from across the room, then approaching with an E/S opener is BEST.
Remember, never do more than you need.  If you have a strong “gut” feeling that she’s into you pose an E/S opener to her.
The E/S skill gets a lot of criticism as it is rather plain and unflashy.  But, if she gives you a strong signal of interest, why would you do more?  In other words, this CAN be a very effective skill, if used at the right time…
Stephen Nash
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NYC Dating Coach: Themes I’ve Noticed…

As a dating coach here in NYC, you’d likely think that most of the guys I work with are very different, diverse, experiencing very different challenges vis-a-vis women and dating.  If that’s what you think, you’d be wrong…very very wrong.
It’s truly amazing how each of the guys who come to me tend to struggle with the exact same things.  And, very regularly, the solutions to what they struggle with are usually the same as well.  It has caused me to think that there is a true epidemic of fear and insecurity within our male population, which is usually the root cause of his struggles with women.
First, some catch words:
Insecurity Autonomy Mission or Aim Lifestyle
These are all important for one reason or another.  Let’s begin with insecurity.  We throw this word around like a tennis ball, but the fact is, it is a REAL thing.  It manifests towards women a lot given their value to men.  The more important something is, the greater the impact ones insecurity will manifest.  Don’t ask me why - it just is that way.  EVERY guy who struggles with women suffers from some level of insecurity.  How do I know this?  The number one attractive element in men to women is….SECURITY.  (this is written about all over this blog, won’t rewrite it here)
Autonomy is simply the presence of security in a man.  It is the quality of ones life being self-directed.  It implies balance, power and meaning.  The opposite of this would be imbalance, powerlessness and aimlessness.  The solution, I have found, to the disease of insecurity is to pursue autonomy.  My job as a dating coach is to find out where a guy has given up his power and train him to take it back.  Becoming attractive to women, naturally, means a man is pursuing autonomy, he is seeking a real life of his own.  No gimmicks can give him/you that…
Mission or Aim.  Every new-age punk teacher has grasped these ideas and written multitudes of books about it (excluding David Deida’s marvelous “Way of the Superior Man”).  All a guy needs is to have some concept of what he wants out of life, whether it is in the direction of career, hobby, travel etc - it doesn’t matter (at least to me).  But, as long as a guy has a direction he can galvanize his energies around this, build a real lifestyle to support it, and start meeting people with whom he shares this interest.  Mission/aim/purpose…very important, very simple.  Lets not overcomplicate, OK?
Finally Lifestyle.  Most of the guys I work with have a lifestyle that has been given to them.  It is not one of their own crafting.  Do you have latent interests?  Are you living a life you love?  Are you consciously designing a life around you?  Or, do things “happen” to you causing to to “react” and take a smaller position in the world?  It’s never in-between.  It’s always one or the other:  You are either consciously building a lifestyle or the world/others are unconsciously (best case) leeching off of you for its/theirs.  My job as a dating coach, again, is to help a guy consciously craft his lifestyle.  Once he begins this, power returns to him, the lights turn on again, and he becomes, unwittingly, attractive…
Approaching women, flirting, baiting, teasing etc are all important - but they must rest upon concrete, as opposed to sand.  The themes outlined above are critical and must come first.  No amount of slick gimmicks and tactics will hide the fact that the guy in question simply…doesn’t…get it.
Would that be you?
Learn more about my dating coaching programs right here in NYC by clicking below:
NYC Dating Coach Stephen Nash
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Fit Singles Find a New Online Dating Home

Online singles websites have been in decline in recent years. Much like the fate of network television following the onslaught of cable, broad-appeal services have lost ground to niche sites that target specific demographic groups. One niche-dating directory that is growing in popularity is Fitness Singles (www.fitness-singles.com). Here, Chris Mattioli of Fitness Singles answers questions related to the online dating game.
How did Fitness Singles get started?
We formed Fitness Singles because we are personally committed to the fitness lifestyle, and noticed that fitness was underrepresented in the online dating field. As single women or men would view fitness as a desirable characteristic in a prospective partner, they decided to launch a site tailored to the fitness lifestyle.
What exactly do you mean by a fitness lifestyle?
For many single men and women, living an active, fit existence isn?t just a choice, but a way of life that involves a commitment of time, energy, and passion. Naturally, finding a relationship partner that shares a similar lifestyle is critical for compatibility, and many struggle to meet like-minded partners that share that commitment.
Why should people go to your site rather than any of the other well-known online dating service sites out there?

This Valentine's Day Singles Give Their Heart a Workout

There are close to 100 million single adults in the United States. Of those, 17 million visited online dating sites in 2002 and those numbers are predicted to double by 2006 - according to SiliconValley.com. This Valentine?s Day, millions of single women and men may be looking for mates online – each one of them intent on finding a valentine who possesses their same goals, interests, pursuits and passions. To help single adults avoid wasting hours of time sifting through generic online personals, Internet dating services are moving in the direction of becoming more thematic and focused. For example, fitness and sports-minded singles can save time and find compatible partners by honing in on a new category of online dating services that cater to their needs.
A far cry from the generic adult personals of yesteryear, these next generation services are helping single adults find harmonious matches in a fun, private, secure environment. According to Chris Mattioli, president of Fitness Singles, ?Seekers of the perfect mate on this site need not have the abs of Brad Pitt, the legs of Angelina Jolie, nor even work out daily, although many do. But they must stay active on a regular basis and appreciate an active lifestyle. The idea is that narrowing the field to fitness enthusiasts increases the odds of finding the perfect partner.?
Single women and men focused on fitness come in many varieties. They can be personal trainers or bodybuilders, but they can also be individuals who are interested in running, golfing, surfing, yoga, or a myriad of other sports. They can be novice or pro. They might just enjoy working out at the gym daily. The common denominator is simply a passion for activity and physical fitness.
Fitness Singles makes it easy to find compatible active interests among potential partners with a choice of 79 different categories such as running, bodybuilding, tennis, golf, swimming, and almost every sport imaginable. At the service – where it is free to join, create/search profiles, and tease others via a ?Show Interest? button – members can also search by age, location, fitness interest, or a keyword in multiple categories such as appearance or lifestyle.
Beyond email, live audio/video, instant messaging and a ?Who?s Online? feature which allows subscribers to send messages to anyone who?s currently online, Fitness Singles users also have the unique opportunity of seeing who viewed or saved their profile and contacting them at their discretion. Other popular features include a ?Who?s New? list and ?Top 25? lists by fitness category, gender, and overall.
The Cupid of the 21st century is much more advanced than the chubby-cheeked cherub of old. While eyes may still be meeting across a crowded room, they are also busily reading email-based valentines. The selectivity provided by these new theme-based websites could be a welcome timesaver for singles who are searching for that special partner. It may increase the chances of Cupid unleashing his arrow in their direction on Valentine?s Day – without the need to sort through thousands of inappropriate online personals.

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French Kiss – Tips and tricks for how to perform

A kiss is one of the most intimate and sensuous things you can experience with another person. There is no perfect or right way to kiss. Many people also experience anxiety about kissing or don't know how to ask for a kiss. Don't worry; the following steps will give to some basic know-how about kissing especially French Kissing. This may be useful either you're getting ready for your first kiss, or you're an experienced kisser and just want to improve your game for your first kiss with a new partner.
Freshen your breath, as you never want to have bad breath when you are about to kiss someone. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh breath is especially important. Properly brush your teeth, get a good bath and freshen up before meeting the other person. Avoid foods that smell strong like garlic, onion, pickle, milk etc.Moisten your lips with lipstick or a lip balm. Dry lips are not attractive and also do not move well together. Avoid heavy layer of lipstick or balm, as they may usually stuck off from the lips while performing passionate kissing.Get into a comfortable position so that you can lean to each other easily.

How to meet women on Facebook

Social Networking sites are the most popular social medium to meet people. You can find your long lost friends, cousins you didn't talk to in a long time or even a date. Facebook, MySpace, Friendster, Bebo, Meetup are some of the most commonly used social networking sites, Facebook being the most popular one among all generations. The fact that these are free, one can find many random guys joining these free sites. Guys that are single and looking try to make friends with the most desirable women. In an effort they send them all kinds of messages, send pokes or funny gifts. As a result, women become immune to the messages guys send using these social networking sites, and even the genuine guys lose the chance of meeting the women of their choice.
Assuming you are one of those genuine and good ones, how do you make sure that you stand out of all these random guys?

5 Best Gifts for Your Loved One on Valentine's Day

When Valentine's Day rolls around, you want to get your loved one the perfect gift to let them know that you are thinking of them in the best ways. But sometimes this can get a little challenging. There are just so many boxes of candy and sweet cards you can get before they all seem the same. Getting some fresh ideas is a great plan.
Edible Arrangement
One gift that is becoming more popular is the edible arrangement. With one of these you can send your lover a Valentine's Day bouquet that they can enjoy in more ways than one. Not only does it look great, they can also savor the treats it's made of. You can send chocolate, other desserts, or fruit if they want something a little healthier.
Books
Getting your loved one a book isn't a bad idea. No matter what kind of interests your lover has, you can find some literature on the subject. Books not only last a long time, and so make great gifts, they also show the recipient that you really know them and care about their interests.
Hobby Supplies
If your loved one has a hobby, supplies can be a wonderful Valentine's Day gift. Like the books, this shows them that you know what they love doing, and that you support their interests.
Music
Giving musically related gifts can be very unique. Albums of your loved one's favorite musician, music books to go with an instrument they play, or music lessons can really touch them, especially if they have never received something like that before.
Something Sensual
Getting your significant other a sensual gift is classic and romantic. This can be something for the bedroom, or something just to pamper them. Spa treatments, perfumes, games, or clothing can be great options.
As you can see, Valentine's Day gifts don't have to be the same year after year. You can get your loved one something unlike anything they've ever had before. They will love you all the more for your thoughtfulness and creativity.
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Safety Tips for Women

Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If arobber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and sticks your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

Types of Kisses - Part 1

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Wanna be a success? Use your 5 senses

How often do girls on the street smile to you, pay to you attention? Sometimes? Never? You wonder what you should do to make it happen?
It is very easy, just use your senses.
First of all, what attracts attention of a girl? You think appearance? You are wrong! There are 5 main aspects that girls value most of all.
• Masculinity. Women feel sorry for losers, but are fond of winners.
• Confidence. Women like self-confident men. The ones who know what they want, and how to achieve it.
• Determination. If you look at the girl for the whole evening, but do not dare to come closer to her, your chances are not high.
• Activity. As the man is proud of himself if he comes to the party in a luxurious car, the woman is proud of her man if he is Nr. 1 among the others.
• Persistence. Indecisive men are not valued not only by women, but at work either.
• Calmness.